SUPPORTING THE POLYGAMOUS COMMUNITY SINCE 2004
The practice of polygamy has been around for thousands of years. However, like monogamy, it has suffered its share of abuses. Child brides, spousal abuse, incest, these are some of the pitfalls of marriage. Many people would like to blame polygamy for these abuses, but the truth is that these abuses are prevalent in society regardless of marriage type, religion, or ethnic background. Having said that here are some guidelines for living a polygamous lifestyle.
Do not use the LDS principle of personal revelation to get what you want. This commonly occurs in FLDS based marriages. "The Lord has revealed to me ..." is a poor substitute for good communication skills.
Do not father more children than you can support. The idea here is self sufficiency. The best way to attract unwanted attention is for your wives to apply for welfare.
Read the sermon on the mount (Matthew 5) and Paul's sermon on charity(1 Corinthians 13). Do not attempt to practice polygamy unless you understand and live these principles. Buddhist philosophy is also a good source of spiritual guidance.
Keep your family together in one household so you can support your wives, and your wives can support each other. If not in the same house then the same group of houses.
If you are having trouble with your current relationship, polygamy will only make things worse. If you can't maintain a quality monogamous relationship, then a polygamous relationship will be impossible.
If you just want multiple sexual partners, polygamy is not the answer. Polygamy is about marriage, and family. Relationships based on sex are impossible to maintain for any length of time.
Do not violate women's rights, this will only lead to trouble.
Child brides are a big no-no. If you can't find a suitable wife in your own age group, then forget polygamy.
Treat all wives equally. Playing favorites is the best way to foster jealousy.
Limit the number of wives you marry. The Q'uran sets a limit of four, this is probably a pretty good limit. The more wives that you have the harder it is to maintain equality in your relationship.
Remember that polygamy requires a high level of maturity. Very few people ever reach the maturity level required to practice polygamy.
--William Clyde©2004 Respective Authors