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LOVE LIKE ELECTRICITY
Among all the inherent properties of mankind, none is more
important than that of love; and no one more clearly evinces
the wisdom and benevolence of his Creator. Love, in its
primary sense, to which it will be restricted in this treatise, is
the mutual attraction of the two sexes. It exists in all
persons, either as a sensibility or a passion. It is a
sensibility when in a state of rest, or when exercised
towards the whole of the opposite sex indiscriminately; but
it is a passion when strongly excited and when excercised
towards particular individuals. And it is as truly and
fundamentally a law of human nature as electricity is of
material nature, - to which it bears a curious analogy. We
can scarcely reason with more certainty upon
the laws of electricity then upon those of love, for we have
the assistance of consciousness in one case which we want in
the other. But note the analogy: it has been demonstrated
that all bodies possess electricity in a greater or less
degree; and that some are positive when compared with others,
and some are negative. They are usually at rest; but when
two bodies of different electrical states approach each
other, they at once become highly excited, and continue so
till brought in contact with each other, when the positive
charges or impregnates the negative. So it is found that
love exists in different states in the two sexes, and in
different degrees of intensity in different individuals of
the same sex. Males are positive, and females negative; and
while the latter differ less from each other than the former
do, being nearly all of them susceptible to the proper
proposals of genuine love, yet they are not so much affected
by spontaneous passion as the former are, who usually
experience it with great intensity, and are impelled to make
the first advances. But there are always some individuals
among them who need a great deal of encouragement before they
will advance and propose; and others who are almost destitute of the
common sensibility of love, and who will neither make
proposals nor receive them.